**Why do guys feel offended when Ladies offer them money** Ladies Need your views
 

Hi all

Been missing in this forum for quite sometime. Recently found out a close guy friend (a previous crush) ran into financial needs and offer to help but got turn down. Sometimes i wonder why he did not accept my favor since we are that close and given the fact that i know the monthly interest repayment rate is killing him.

Pity him knowing that he got cheated while being a guarantor for this friend.
Well i did joke suggesting that he could be some toyboy for some taitai and that was when he told me if he's desperate he wont mind doing anything.
I suggested to him that i will reserved him if he willing haha, well im pretty serious when i say that and he got abit offended.

Am i too blunt?

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Probably because it is socially unacceptable for males to accept payment for sexual services. There is also the male ego to consider.

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If he's desperate for money, what u offer is 雪中送炭.
He should be thankful if he is really in need of money.

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Lolx I also want....:p

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Bcoz we dont want to be look down. I for 1 dont like to borrow or take money from gals. Gt something to do wif pride, principles, ego n face issue. Something that u gals wont get it...

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Hi

Just my inputs. No offense intended.


Apparently who in the right mind would want help? I wouldn't want any help because that would mean I'm incapable. Okay, I'm a girl, that's fine. But for guys, it's a double whammy in my own definition.

While working part time during school holidays, I observed people behavior. Some guys would just call it quit than to surrender. Why?

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A matter of perspective.. It can add to the kink factor to get paid for sex for a change. :p

Besides he can always reverse the situation and pay her for sex once he's out of his debts.. That's kinda like repaying the 'loan'....

With an open mindset, life gets more interesting! :D

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But on the other hand, not all guys are like that. Some guys thinks that it is perfectly all right to borrow n spend gals money...

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It really depends on individual. I don't think this is an issue relating to gender.

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i guess ur offer makes him feel demeaned
guys have ego

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Greetings! This is based on mine imagination. Along the street of GL one evening. A pimp walk over and told me his PRC girl is fresh into the market. Her first time and, it costs above market rate.

I would have told him off, a brother in the Internet claiming he is single. Local man mind you. Any FT woman who he ROM will have her PR within 3 months. Provided she has no criminal records in this country.

How much is he and his girls paying mine brother? Does he had this kind of money, this is the most expensive city in the world. Even Victoria Beckham came over and promote her products. And many celebrities too.

$ not enough then think of other means, $ does grow on trees but he had to shake it.

Re: **Why do guys feel offended when Ladies offer them money** Ladies Need your views
 

He's so lucky to have a lady friend like you!

Dunn mind asking if I can have your contact no.? :D

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Nothing wrong with borrowing $$ as long as 有借有还.
Getting piak is bonus.
Better than borrow from Mr LONG.

:D

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Maybe TS very fat so he turn off lor.. :D

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One word should sum it up:

Pride

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FL got pricing and some men's pride maybe worth a certain amount.

if $50 is an insult, how about 500? 500 too little how about 5k or even 50k? haha

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Maybe if you were holding his dick, licking his balls and make the offer at the same time, he may have reacted differently. :D

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Humans & their pride. Like one of the Bros said, as long as he have intention to repay back the $$$$, its entirely fine with borrowing.

If he's repaying back the loan in the form of service, i think its fine too as long as the one who made the loan is agreeable. Its legitimate and no one get hurts in the process.

Ps: TS, i don't mind if u wanna offer me $ :p

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Maybe it because it coming from a close friend.....
He might be worried how is hr going to face u in future let just say he clear his debt....
Man after all is still man the pride is there..... especially from a close friend.

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Ask him again, he may accept.

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Also depends who lah. If I am in dire straits and got chio bu offer to 'bao' me, I won't hesitate on such a sweet deal! ;)

Unfortunately, Lim Bei ... NO SUCH LUCK :(

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definitely pride and ego problem exist, not thick skin enough. another important thing is there could still be love be it opp sex or friendship kind that makes it even harder to accept.
he wants to keep the friendship going on between the 2 of you, after all, money always cause conflict between people.

i didn't had the chance to get intimately close to rich lady friends but i always believe being gentleman makes all ladies feel right.

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think he treat u more like close friend , which why he feel offended when u said want to "bao" him....

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Poor ts ask for ladies views...all guys start offering themselves to her :D

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all men have ego. your intention is understood, but maybe the way you said it wasn't too pleasent. all men don't like to feel like they are toys. we want to know that we are needed.

although meaning is the same, but when u phrase it differntly, results also different.

maybe u can try signalling him that you need a favor. maybe he will oblige. then after a few favor sessions, then u slowly suggest to help him with the financial matter.

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I will say he really treated you as a close, good friend and nothing more.
Hence when you offered to keep him as 'toyboy' or what, he got offended.

I remembered many years back when I was quite heavily in debt due to bad gambling and loan shark borrowing from my mother. I helped her in paying the debts and interests, and in the end, had almost nothing left over monthly. A good friend offer to help me by 'borrowing' me money, and jokingly say I can repay her by sleeping with her. I got quite offended (Stupid of me perhaps =X) and rejected it.

It's not about no ego or what. I appreciated her help in offering to borrow me money for expenses I needed, but quite offended for the 'repay' method as I treat her as a very good, close friend, and nothing more.

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A men's ego is a thing that cant be explained easily.
learn to approached in another way if you are really into offering him help esp when it comes to $ issues.

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i want can? :p

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if i was him, after hearing those words from a close friend like you that u willing to 'bao' me, i will definitely feel angry.

you can actually just say that u are willingly loan him the money and he just need to return back whenever he can. i am sure he will be totally be grateful for your action.
but instead, you just have to hurt a friendship when you mentioned 'baoing' him, especially those words come out from a close friend.

simplest way for u to do now is just apologise to him and let him know you didn't mean to offend him but just trying to help to ease his difficulties. he should be able to forgive you this time i hope.

Is there a queue to be reserved by TS? Long or not har? Keke...