Depression Chit Chat/Support Thread
 

Just thought it might be super helpful to have a thread where members can write about our problems/release our thoughts. Seems like there is a growing number of members that are suffering from depression or are just feeling sad about their lives, careers or are unemployed.

As fellow members, we can help encourage each other positively, hopefully, lift those depressed/negative moods, help each other pull through difficult times, and make people feel generally better.

It can also be a chit chat thread to help us pass these lonely nights where we can't sleep.

Let's help each other out during tough times :)

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Nice thread bro. Just curious can u change ur nick to justin bieber. Saw ur join date is 2002.

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Thank you bro, and please do share if you have any problems/thoughts/views to share :)

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take a step at a time, or stop for a while to breath.

dun hope for beautiful result too.

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Justin bieber: baby baby baby oh, cone baby baby baby oh

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Supporting this thread.
I am in a few support group for depression and mental health issues. It is really nice to have a place you can just rant and release all that pent up emotions. And all the encouragement and concern from fellow members are really comforting.

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Hi sis, how are you? :)

This is a judgment-free zone so rant all you want!! :)

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Support support!

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mid 40s.. not married. Goes Massage and GLand to release when its full tank.. aint too sure if its gonna be this way for the rest of my life..

Wana get hitch but sexy gals hard to maintain, Bay Gan gals also tried to play hard to maintain... lotsa teens above 19 makes one feels like drooling but thats about it cos to them u are just an 'uncle'... Way past prime and depression setting in.

Not successful in career to nab a supercar to fish for chicks easier:(

lyf sux @ times...

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Thanks for sharing bro :)

I personally don't think mid 40s is way past prime. Getting married poses a different set of challenges too. Supercar and wealth attracts a wrong set of attention and superficial ladies instead unless if you are looking for such.

And no, you are NOT an uncle :)

Have physical contact with those you care about (no need sex, hugs will do).
Complete small tasks.
Exercise.
Be polite and kind to others.

I try to do the above everyday to keep my depression from coming back.

Watching The Joy of Painting is also very comforting. Almost cry a couple of times listening to Bob Ross.


Thankfully, when I was in depression, my family was supportive.

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You must understand and realise the meaning of getting control of your own life

It is very easy to fall into a vicious cycle - your type of cycle, because you are too lonely, friends around you gotten hitched, having children and all

It becomes a trance without you knowing

It is never too late to want to know somebody or want to do something
Kwa ler ai mai nia

All you need to do to start, is to open your golden mouth and ask
And of course, ask the right people
Don't go asking the Turtle Head where you can find girls of marriage material

And dont wish for the skies
Because we must always ask ourselves if we are the stars to begin with
Cut it short - do you have what it takes to wish for a slinky sexy woman, beautiful to turn heads and skilful to keep you in bed? (jin de liao chufang, chu de liao ting tang, shang de liao chuang)?
Aim level, not too high not too low

U want a supercar? Who doesn't?
Eh tahan the maintenance and the frustration of cb drivers on the road, or cb car owners opening their doors too hard, banging onto the sides of your supercar bo?
Be realistic with your targets
Otherwise, everything oso cannot get

Hi bro, I’m similar to your predicament. Mid 40s single, no luck with women. Come home from work everyday to 4 walls and feeling lonely & depressed wondering if I would be alone forever. It’s especially heart-wrenching when u see all your friends have settled down with kids or seeing couples in public. I read the statistics more singaporeans are staying single but I look around and it seems I’m the rare few.

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Justin Bieber = Justin drew bieber borned in 1994. TS registered in 2002. 8 years difference... so coincidentally. :p

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I love this thread

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This is amazing! :D

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There was a thread started by boss on depression help.
Maybe might want to merge both threads in one?

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Being married Don mean all your problems magically disappear. I'm married but in a loveless marriage. Quarrel with wife every day, expects me to do all the chores, take care of kid, pay for bills and still not satisfied. She has low sex drive and when I want to initiate things she act until like it's a chore so end up i also don't wanna have sex With her. And when quarrel she will say until machiam like it's my fault. Three years since she pregnant and the number of sex we have is less than 20 times. Only reason why I still with her is for my kid.
At work I also not doing well, worked 10 years and only had promoted once before. Tried looking for new jobs but never got any offers. Y brother is a bum and we don't talk much. Only time we talk is when he wans me to help him do something. He once owe me $200 for six months yet he was working and not like hard up or anything.
I Don really have much going for me except for my kid. But can't afford to die cos my kid still young and my parents are old and retired.

oh well life goes on.

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Upped your points bro.
Do return the favour.

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Hang in there bro

Every choice/decision/step we made in life is always littered with problems

That's life

But it's how we react to it

Focus on your kid Bro.
Impart knowledge and values so that she/he becomes wiser and finds it easier to survive in the real world next time.

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I just needed to get this off my chest..... (this might be a rather long rant.....)

A lot of people did asked me why did I disappeared back in 2015 in this forum. My usual answer was I found what I was looking for. The truth is that when I created this account, I was just been diagnosed with major depressive disorder on top of my pre-existing chronic depression, adjustment disorder and anxiety. I have been struggling with the last 3 for as long as I could remembered, but with the new diagnosis, I was so scared and afraid of everything. Sex was like an escape from the real world to me. It was like a replacement of reality to me. That was why I created my account. But honestly, sex isn't the best way to cope with mental illness, in fact it make it worse. I felt so empty every time after sex. My medication wasn't help me too. Majority of my medication at that time just lower my sex drive and made me not wanting sex at all. I was in a vicious cycle. Till I had a major relapse again in 2015. From then on, I became a time bomb. I kept getting relapse every few months, I kept going in and out of hospitals.... and in late 2016, after seeing the same team for a year, I had a new diagnosis.... I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. It kinda sums up everything. I had all the symptoms but because of my pre-existing conditions, it requires the team to at least see me for a year in order to diagnose me with borderline personality disorder. So with the right diagnosis, it's easier for the team to find the right treatment for me.

But with 5 mental illness attached to me, this also spells a huge problem - maintaining my job. I was asked to leave by mid 2017. In a certain way, I was quite glad for it. I was under a lot of stress with my job and at times I just couldn't manage my stress and I started having panic attacks at work. Since mid 2017, I have been through interviews after interviews. But no company seems to want to hire me as I have to declare my conditions due to my weekly appointments for therapy and/or follow up. Good thing was that I found a part time job that I could work while at the same time looking to rebuild my career. But after more than a year.... rejections after rejections.... I felt so dishearten.... why no company is willing to give me a chance and sees me for who I really am and what I am capable of? I am just like any "normal" people. I am a highly functioning patient who could take care of herself and function as a human being. Why the discrimination then? It's really taking a toll on me.... my savings are drying up.... my current pay isn't enough to support myself and my 2 folks who are retired. And here I am, back in this forum, looking for the escape I so needed. The only difference this time is, I know I am in such a better place now compared to last year. My only issue is to really find a job that really doesn't discriminate against the mentally ill patients. It's really sad to know that with all the talks of not discriminating, but the ugly truth is that the stigma and discrimination is very real till now.

I really hope one day, this stigma and discrimination will end for good....

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I am truly sorry to hear about your story and your plight.

I think the first step you could do is to approach and speak to your RC (Resident Committees) for help. They are the Grassroots Leaders and as they are community volunteers, they will gladly do their utmost to help you wherever possible. Grassroots Leaders/RC members also have direct access to your MP (Member of Parliament) of your area where you reside so engaging with your MP for help is also another option. MP has a lot of credibility and weight to help you in this area.

Meantime, whilst you are continuing searching for a suitable job, you could also use your SkillsFuture Credit of $500 to upgrade your skills. This could value add to your resume and skillset.

Let me know which area you stay in and perhaps we can help you locate the right Grassroots Leaders to help you :)

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Bro, you so sad, so emo meh? Create this thread...

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Bro, how are you? :)

I thought it would be super helpful to create a support group/thread for people who are feeling depressed or just want an judgement-free outlet to rant/release their feelings/thoughts :)

It's always good to have people supporting and encouraging one another in difficult times :)

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I think someone has paid money for a senior account. XD

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In this fast paced society, where u are not sure if ur jobs are secure, local women have too much expectations, people are always complaining, parents behaving badly in front of their children, I see a lot depressing people especially males. I had a problem with that but I am keeping it in check. I tell myself if I am bipolar?
I have the chance to travel overseas ( not China) the people I met are really nice. There are more important things in life. Sometimes u have to pamper urself, try 2 do good.. ur life will be more happy and meaningful.

Live the life 4 urself. The world is not getting any better.
The Devil might tempt u , sometimes u give in.

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I think the first step you could do is to approach and speak to your RC (Resident Committees) for help. They are the Grassroots Leaders and as they are community volunteers, they will gladly do their utmost to help you wherever possible. Grassroots Leaders/RC members also have direct access to your MP (Member of Parliament) of your area where you reside so engaging with your MP for help is also another option. MP has a lot of credibility and weight to help you in this area.

Hi, would like to correct our bro thou that RC's have direct access to the MP. That's absolutely untrue cos I'm a RC member myself. Bascially, each consituency has its weekly Meet-the-people session (MPS), staffed by volunteers - not RC member. Hence, u can take q to meet your MP. Hope it help.

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Thanks for the correction. I understand through monthly events or even through the RC Chairman, we can write in and speak to the MPs for any resident's concerns/feedback/views

Nonetheless, thanks for your comments bro :)

Will up you + 57 points soon

Bro if you need to talk to a professional. This is a toll-free helpline for mental issues
1800-283-7019
(singapore association for mental health)

You can also PM me. Actually I work in a training and placement centre for ppl with mental conditions. I know people. Let me know how I can help.

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I am not a bro, sis.

Anyways, thanks for the offer. But I know one thing for sure, all job placement centre for mentally ill patients couldn't help me much due to the fact I am too high functioning. ALL of them told me outright that I will have better chance/luck looking for jobs on my own. Just FYI.