How many of you chiong despite having a partner?
 

I started chionging back during my NS days, and could not stop since then. Not until I found myself a girlfriend.

I stopped for close to 2 years, but slowly I realised that my sex life in my relationship sucks so bad that I cannot take it already eh.

Went for my first ever CIM BBBJ awhile back and holy shit, that was so fking good, my gf was never able to make me cum from her bj (cuz always just 30s to like 3 min only). Really miss those slow and sensual HDLY that makes my whole body tremble too. But my gf could never do any of these.

Used to think that I'd never find anyone else for my sexual needs once I found myself a girlfriend, but once I actually did, problems like differing libido and just overall not being satisfied all came up and accumulated slowly.

Anyone else feels like this, is this the reason why yall still chiong despite having a partner?

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Just asking.
If u r upset abt the sex life with ur current gf. Will u consider to change another gf? If yes, just one advice "dun fall un love for ML or FL"

Re: How many of you chiong despite having a partner?
 

most of us Find it quite difficult to eat chicken rice everyday.
Usually after finding a gf, u will stop chionging for awhile but will return after u start getting bored…

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It got really difficult for me. There's a life360 app installed in my phone.

My advice for you will be, always remember to treat ur love one well and priority is always them okay.

Chiong safe!

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Same for me bro, I stopped for about 1 year after meeting my gf. But never been able to stay away from SBF. Thinking of starting to chiong again.

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Once you enjoyed the good kung fu of those good fls, very hard to enjoy sex with normal girls.

Every time fuck the same girl also will sian one. Even if the fl skills damn good I will also get bored after a few rtf. Then end up they enjoy the session more than me.

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I chiong because I am in a LDR and my gal is not by my side. When I am with her in China, I don't chiong.

Whatever you want to/need to do, don't let your gal know can liao. They are fucking jealous animals.

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Well said. Even so. Still have cases of married men bao (”包”） them (MLs) as either mistress or those no strings attached FB kind.

Funny. They have their own wife. Even if they are deprived of sex as in their wife didn’t give to their needs. Not necessary to bao those MLs

Thank you bro. Im not generous with money when it comes to spending on others, I prefer spending on my partner hehe.
But that will be a bad thing for chiongster, hit rate gets really low.

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For me, not really as Chiong. Due to the lack of sex with partner, the mentality and stress may go wrong.
Usually I go once a month to retain the mentality. Of course, if need more, then will go more.
This is how I feel and more like health concerns

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Girl friend is Brandy. But sometime we wish to drink Whiskey, red wine or beer so we go out to drink lor. However, we still go back to Brandy, cos Brandy FOC mah. :p

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If your GF can perform as good as tat WL, you may be thinking "SHIT, was she once a WL?"

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Try having sex with your partner only once a month. I’m sure you bros will yearn for her touch when the time comes. You will become faithful. But don’t play cheat by eating out. Have a blessed marriage or relationship.

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These types, they don't bao for sex but for emotional needs. Their wife not just off-sex but some can be emotionally distant, hardly talking anymore or just no common ground for connection.

If just looking for sex, you are right that there's no need to bao. Just eat-in :D

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things i tell VN ML
"everyday eat rice at home will get bored, so got to eat pho outside so as to appreciate rice at home"

i "an banh tra tien". i eat i pay, no string attached.

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i chiong maybe 4 years already.

actually had a good relationship and sex life with partner until started trying to have kids.
so become gynae give schedule to have sex. spoilt the whole thing for me. became no interested in sex anymore. add on with moving up in career and stress of future (house, income, family)

still good relationship for the most part but sexless at home. so just go for release from time to time.

like bro heartland mentioned, just remember this.

I keep it a point to keep it transactional even if lady dont request for payment. i tend to just give market rate and move on. Also good thing that usually once i up one time. i "unconsciously" start to siam them

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All men fxxk other women, we are Low by nature and have to do it. No need to try to understand why, it’s an animal instinct.

Key thing is to know when to go home.

Just my 2 cents.

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:p Erm true. But don’t think MLs can give emotional needs eh… most of them only for $$
Unless the person bao her with $$, which can in turn buy her emotional needs, besides her body. I don’t know. Just curious after seeing this thread. The purpose of bao… chiong and overtime bao the ML despite having a wife

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I love bak kut teh so my house cook bkt all the time.
But if I go out, sometimes I eat tom yum, other times eat mala, otherwise also got banh mi. Got variety, so won't get sick of bkt.
Got chance also eat sushi and kimchi..

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Yes must always try other food outside so that you can experience the different, you will find house food is still the best at the end of the day.

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So far all my friends will go "chiong" to certain extend.

Only those highly religious type managed to abstain from the temptations.

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没有不偷吃的猫。There is no cat that doesn't steal food.

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Once u started chionging, your engine very hard to stop the temptations.
just like listening to edm/manyao will get addictted

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Mostly very true. I also have non-religious friends who don't chiong...but very few indeed.

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Only a player can fulfil a woman’s emotional needs. Got money to throw only can satisfy their material needs. Ultimately women will choose emotional over material either openly or secretly. Husband throw money on tai tai, tai tai use the money to 养小白脸. So common.

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Upped you for this post!

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Started to chiong when family life cooled off. tried different MLs before found a gf... God bored of chionging as I realized it is all transactional and many land mine... Even the ones that have good service and GFE they are after the money.

I am after feelings, nothing will ever replace hot, passionate love-making. And as for the money, I spend it on my loved ones, they deserve it more than anyone else.

Take care, chiong safely

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Just sharing my personal account - started visiting MLs when I was single. After that, got attached and married and urge died down. However, after a while, urge came back even though I share a good sex life and intimacy with my partner.

End of the day, it is up to you to decide what you can live with. Some people have guilt, some people no guilt. Some people have devotion, some people no devotion. Some think cheonging is not mutually exclusive to being a family man, as long as your family is still safe and you don't neglect. For me, I have come to terms that this is who I am and the urge will always be there. I stick to only MLs and HJs because I don't want to risk disease and put my partner at risk. Of course, end of day, my priority is still family and if my habits end up putting them at risk one day, then I will stop. For now, journey continues...

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Was chionging when I was single and young. Now married liao, sometimes still have the urge to go for a nice massage and cbj, especially when my work gets very stressed. Bo bian lah my wife neh neh not big leh and i love big neh neh

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I agree too on this