[Lundgren]

Field reports from Japan and some thoughts.

First some thoughts:

The motivations of the dominas I have met in my life can be placed somewhere on a continuum between two extremes. Lets call it "the motivations-scale".

In the sad end of the scale, you have the dominas (and clubs) that are doing their job only because of the money, because they have found a way to get a lot of money they could not get in another way. The horrible prospect of this is, that in effect, the girl is then sometimes doing something with us she at best find boring and annoying, and at worst is violating and traumatizing her, and which also supports some unscrupolous people behind the scenes. Here we also find "trafficing" and stuff like that.

On the happy end of the scale are the dominas (and clubs) where you sense that they have actively persued this field because they fell drawn to the bdsm world. Sure, they want to make a good living doing their jobs well (like we do in our jobs), but they could just as easily have persued another career and been succesful there also. And with these dominas you have to find the one with the right chemistry, because these kind of dominas will be choosy of their costumers and the sessions.

It is sometimes difficult to judge exactly what the motivations and true feelings of the domina is, but we are obviously concerned about this.

In Thailand I have seen many things that are near the bad end of the scale. Same here in Denmark because BDSM is often linked to prostitution. Not rock bottom like trafficking, but bad enough.

But in Japan there are many places and dominas who are very near the happy end of the scale. As far as I can judge.

La Siora is definitely in the last category. It is run by a real mistress (I have met her), and I have met many dominas there that obviously could persue other carreers in life, but actively chose this. I have not have good chemistry with all of them, but many of them. To have good sessions with these amazing, resourceful women is a true privilege.

For those of us who are 100 % slaves in our feelings toward women, this is the only chance we have to feel united in an authentic way with another person.

Normally when I visit Japan these days, I only visit mistress Nina. She is very clever, resourceful and extremely beautiful. She really want this job. She needs it for her soul as much as we need the sessions.
I am totally sure that she enjoys torturing me and that she respects me and cares for me in a mistress kind of way. I am eternally endepted to her: She saves my soul in those few intimate and painful moments we are together.
She is probably not for everyones taste, but for me she is a perfect BDSM-match.

This time when I was in Japan, she was unavailable, so I ventured other places.

I visited Mistress Rei from Fetishi-sm.com in Osaka.
She does not show her face in the pictures, but I can tell she look good. Not super beautiful, but good. Her figure looks exactly like I expected from the pictures, so she is a beautiful woman. I guess she is 30 years old.

As for the sessions, we had some very good moments. She had some interesting "sm-tricks". She was rather too soft than too hard pain-wise, but that could develop with trust.
It was very difficult for me to "read" what her feelings about our meeting was.

As for the club, I am still a bit unsure of the setup. I thought I heard a mans voice on the phone with Rei, and there are some other bad details: The suitcase the girls trolley around has "fetishi-sm" written in large letters on in, and the meetup place is in a very sad and seedy part of the town. The communication with them is good though. No problems there.
I may go back another time.

I also meet Angelina from Sweet Devil.
She was a gem! She totally took over the room when she entered with her charm and energy. She also quickly took over the session: No "topping from the bottom" there. She was very hard on me, but she seemed expert in knowing when to stop the torture, and when to proceed. She obviously enjoyed our session and it was a meeting I will carry deep in my heart.
She looks exactly as I expected from her pictures.
The clubs entry-system is very good and serious, and it seems to be a respectable club. Communication is excellent.
I do not know who runs the club. Ideally I prefer my sm-club to be run by a mistress.

Can´t wait to get back to Japan again. Most people there are extremely friendly, the culture is rich and interesting, and it is a safe-haven for us kinky fellas :-).


To Bro Totolim:

1: Thanks for the tip on Nagoya. I did not plan to go there in the future, but you may have changed my mind.

2: Yes, I think I may have helped both Nina and Tohka (and others) get up in the rankings in Siora…. Well deserved at that. And your post makes me realize that they are probably all reading this thread also. Don´t you think? (I would too).

Cheers

Lundgren.