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Originally Posted by HoundDo9
Bro Born,
At first I wasn't thinkingo of asking, but could you shead some light on what happened? Communication error? Expectation error? Execution error? ( no pun intended ). Basically knowing what you know now could you have predicted it? Or did you just not click during the session?
Appologes for the personal questions!
HD.
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No problem, this forum is kind of about personal things!
I thought long and hard about whether to post this, since it is likely to hurt this Domme's business and livelihood. But I think that people should know what happened so that they can make informed decisions about who to see.
So I'll give a full report on it.
I don't know what this board's policy is on negative reviews. I searched for a sticky but couldn't find it. So moderators, if I am breaking some rule in this post, my apologies, and I won't hold it against you if you edit this post.
This was years ago, but it still stands out in my memory as easily my worst SM session ever. It my first ever experience of SM in Japan (but I was already quite an experienced player). It was with Akiho of La Siora, back in the days when they did sessions in an apartment in Shinjuku. At that time I had only very basic spoken Japanese, and my written Japanese was even worse. So I had written an email in English outlining the type of session I would like to have.
I'll start with a positive, she was there on time. However from there it only went downhill. To start with, it was completely obvious that she hadn't read my emailed session outline at all (or perhaps she hadn't received it). So I had to go through everything again with her with her in the room. This was helped by a bilingual play checklist that she had with her, but hampered by the fact that her English was not very good at all (as opposed to what was claimed on the website). At that time I had only lived in Japan for a couple of months, and had absolutely zero Japanese ability when I first arrived, but we ended up negotiating in Japanese because my very limited Japanese was still better than her English.
Without going into specifics, it was quickly apparent that she was quite unenthusiastic about the style of session I was after. This was odd since the receptionist (Hiromi) had recommended her to me after being emailed a session outline identical to what I outlined verbally to Akiho. At this point, I would have aborted the session if I could, but since I had already made a booking, I decided it would be unfair to her to do so (maybe she would have been able to pick up another client had I not booked), and decided to go through with it anyway and hope for the best.
However, in spite of this, she still tried to upsell me to book a longer session than the minimum 70 minutes.
In the email exchange, I had asked if I could have an enema before the session (since it involved anal play and it's bad karma to make someone push poo). They said that they had enemas and I could do this before the session. Akiho did give me an enema, but deducted the 15 minutes that I spent in the bathroom by myself out of the 70 minutes session time (I wish that I had known about this ahead of time so I could have just gone to the pharmacy, bought an enema myself and taken care of the business before arriving). She also took the initial negotiation and the showers before and after the session out of the 70 minutes.
So a sizeable chunk of the 70 minutes was wasted on negotiation, where I said nothing that I hadn't already made clear in my email, and doing something that I could have done at home (doing the right thing by her and getting clean).
Out of the remaining time, she did the whole session extremely mechanically and half-heartedly, and what she did was quite different from what we had negotiated (so that time was wasted too). While not breaking any limits, she focused on things that I had told her I only had a minor interest in, and didn't spend much time on anal play (even though I had told her I hoped to focus on it in the session, and spent a considerable amount of session time in the bathroom on my own getting ready for it). With about 10 minutes remaining in the 70 minutes, and without me having come, or really having got that turned on at all, Akiho sent me back to the shower to wash and get changed.
The worst thing was, after the session, Akiho made no effort to try and get any feedback from me about the session. In fact, when I pointed out that she hadn't done the kind of session we talked about in our negotiation, she rather rudely said to me that "nothing can be done about it". In spite of how bad the session was, I might even have booked a second session with her if she had showed a real willingness to improve.
Instead I felt really hurt, and walked out of there feeling worse than when I walked in. Not only had I wasted a lot of money with nothing to show for it, but I had also shared a very personal part of myself with someone that obviously didn't care at all. The incident left such a bad taste in my mouth that for years I didn't session with any Japanese Dommes in spite of living in the country, thinking that they were all just out to get the cash with as little effort as possible And I still haven't been back to La Siora, even though I'm now quite an active player elsewhere in Tokyo.
If I had had the chance to talk with her without having to commit to a session, then I could have avoided the whole problem. I had agreed with the receptionist's recommendation to choose Akiho because her profile said that she had a "flexible BDSM view" and also spoke English well. Less than 5 minutes face to face would have been enough for me to that neither of these were true and I would never have sessioned with her.
Now I would only ever do a Mistress Club session with someone that I had previously met in an SM bar. The money that I spend on entrance / drinks is kind of like insurance, and has often saved me from wasting time and money booking a session that wouldn't have worked out. And sometimes it's the other way around, when I am pleasantly surprised to click with someone I thought I would have had no chemistry with just from reading their Internet profile.
Hate to post a negative review as one of my first posts on this forum. There are a lot of other Dommes from other clubs that I can post more positive reviews of, and hope to to do so soon.