i love a married man, and we are in a sexual r/s

[mydoglife]

hi guys.... i am not sure what u all will think of me, but i am really in love with a married man and we are together for abt 2+ years liao. i cannot control this feeling i am not sure how he think abt our r/s, but i care a lot and always think abt him... but i dont think that is how he feel abt me?? sometime i think that he only want the sex. but i really enjoy myself every time i am with him. i dont think that i can ever forget about tis guy... but i know we cannot keep on hiding like that right.... what should i do?

[Coffeecans]

Why hold on to someone who cannot give you a future? It's unfair to you. You deserve better.

There's always someone out there for you.

[liberatte]

TS, you're a big girl now... What's done is done... The choice is still yours to start with. If you think you want to continue, by all means do it... if you want to stop, then stop.

By the way, this is a sex forum. Most of us here are married guys having sex with other women without love- just lust for a fuck. And we pay for it.

I think you'd also like to watch more dramas and know that being the 3rd party will not always work out. Most importantly your actions would...
1. Destroy a beautiful family
2. Destroy your man - even if he promise to be with you, he'd be broke after many many law suites from the wife
3. He will have to pay alimony which will lower $$$
4. He will have to work more and spend less time with you
5. He will leave you because he found somebody at work that work long hours with him in the office....

Choice....

*forgive me for being forward but this is for everybody's good.

[cataramp]

to minimize the sadness cause to you, it will be better for you to leave now.

the longer you clinge onto this r/s the more painful it will get when you're forced to leave him...

im in this situation now.. gf just run road with another guy when im serving my nation..

there are plenty of fishes in the ocean, why hook up on the one that is already taken?

[DGurugay]

U'll be in the loosing end...sooner or later, he will juz dump and leave u like a piece of garbage...

[ahtat77]

you should not expect too much for being a 3rd party. look for someone who is not married if you do not want to have a bad fate.

[nsrchuan]

Love is blind

If u happy is important and can't blame guy cos u choose it .

Happy u love

[JavX]

TS, sorry to burst your bubbles, but there is no happy ending for your situation. If you pursue a path with him, you'll have to face many issues like what bro Liberate mentioned.

Since the rs is still a secret, this is what i'll suggest:

Break off and try to move on. This time find someone who is single instead. In the meantime, find something to distract you like keeping yourself busy with work, meet up more friends, find some hobbies...etc.

Also make it a point to stop contacting him (don't have to do so immediately, just slowly cut off contact). Tell yourself that you are doing so for his sake, it'll be easier if you think this way.

p.s. I was in a similar situation years ago except the gal was attached but not married. I've moved on, got married, but she's still in my heart after all these years. I guess if you really loved someone wholeheartedly before, you'll never forget it. You really have no choice but to bear the pain and keep moving on.

[ah rat]

Hi Ts, don't be the third party,he might take u as FB to solve his Sex desire.U will get hurt.Look for someone who is single,U too will enjoy yourself when u found one

[analog]

Originally Posted by liberatte

TS, you're a big girl now... What's done is done... The choice is still yours to start with. If you think you want to continue, by all means do it... if you want to stop, then stop.

By the way, this is a sex forum. Most of us here are married guys having sex with other women without love- just lust for a fuck. And we pay for it.

I think you'd also like to watch more dramas and know that being the 3rd party will not always work out. Most importantly your actions would...
1. Destroy a beautiful family

Bro....

If the family is so beautiful, why has daddy been fucking another woman on the side for more than 2 years?

I'm just saying....



Jim

[flowbow]

You should ask yourself what do you want from him? A status or merely his companionship? Falling in love with him could be dangerous. If all you want and enjoy is his company then by all means, go ahead. But if you're looking for some kind of status in the form of marriage and settling down with him, then it's not very wise for you to carry on with this relationship.

You're just gonna fall deeper and deeper and (touch wood) if/when his wife finds out, what is gonna happen to you both? He will probably dump you (and everything to do with you, for that matter) and run back to his wife. His wife might/might not forgive him but by then I'm sure he'll probably make sure you're out of his life already, otherwise it would be impossible for him to do any damage control.

Of course things would be vastly different if he does feel something for you, but ask yourself - is it lust or love that he feels for you? Since you both are in a sexual relationship, it's highly likely that it's lust. If it is love, maybe, just maybe, there might be a chance that things could progress but I doubt so. If he really loves you he would have dropped everything with his wife and pursued a proper relationship with you by now already. Two years is quite a long time, btw.

Like what you said, you cannot keep hiding. How long more can you continue hiding your relationship with him? And when the both of you are exposed, how will people view you as? You can choose to not bother about what others think of you but think about the hurt you will have to go through. Think about the potential insults people will hurl at you. Are you able to deal with that? Is everything you have right now worth all of that?

I don't wish to be harsh but I know how you feel and I sincerely hope for the best for you. I know you might never be able to forget him but just remember that love comes in different forms. You don't have to possess the person (emotionally/physically) in order to love him.

And someday, when you've moved on, that love will gradually die down and become nothing but a fond memory. You'll find someone who loves you and whom you love as well... But still, that doesn't mean you have to forget this guy. Nobody says you have to get rid of the memories, right? I believe you're mature enough to make your own decisions so don't be forced into any decision you're unwilling to make. Think through carefully what you want first... That's most important. Your feelings are most important right now so please protect yourself.

I can understand how awful you must be feeling right now and I hope my words have helped you. Take care and all the best to you.

[ferragamo]

If he really wanted to be with you, he would have left his wife for you

he just wants you to satisfy him sexually

why don't you do a test, tell him you want to stop having sex and just want to spend quality time with him doing non-sexual things together..

[acidicavex]

Ask yourself this

How did all this started?
What was the 2 of u looking at? (example are companionship? FB? BGR?)
Did u know he was married before you guy got into intimacy?
What do u wish or hope to get out of this relationship?

Base on your own feeling u felt he is only using u sexually? And you agree to it because you found that u fall in love with him?

There is many serious thing to consider thing arr more complicated now that you are emotionally attach to the relationship.

You might want to take the risk to test him like others suggest.
My suggestion to see whether he too feel and fell in love with u is this way

Curb and control yourself from calling him
Curb and control yourself from meeting him
If you have to meet him after a few rejected occasion curb and control yourself from having sex with him.
Meet up at places openly
Curb yourself from going to a hotel whatever you 2 have done the deed.

Nobody can give u the right answer u can only find out yourself. Unless you choose and willing to be his underground forever.

Good luck

Once bitten twice scare.

[littlepok]

well, i have to confess that i am in a similar position previously. i'm not married but got another girl who still in a r/s with me despite knowing i'm attached.

men are like that, can love many at the same time. however, when made to choose, most will go for the one who stayed with them thru thick and thin, usually is the wife (or the one who bore him kids).

sex is a fascinating thing, it deprive the man's brain of blood, causing him (me included) to do irrational thing. may regret after that but the next sex is just as refreshing, repeating the guilt cycle all over again.

love is selfish. just ask yourself if it is ever possible for him to divorce and be with u. if he cannot, then u have a clear answer. if he say yes but keep dragging with excuses, u have a clear answer.

eventually i accumulated sufficient blood in brain to do what is right and rational. obviously, the so-called third party is first to sacrificed. i like her, her character etc but somehow, it's a matter of "i met u too late".

it's been 2 yrs and u definitely thought about it N times, heard all the reasoning and recommendations from your close friends, need not say further to u. the very reason why u are here (u know what we will say mostly) means u want some supporters and motivation.

assume u drag another 2 yrs and commit 2yrs of your dwindling youth, u might more love (or sex) or shower u with love in exchange of sex. in the end, does not have any returns at all (unless u can persuade him to divorce). as 1 bro stated,

1 day u will be dumped like a piece of garbage.

if he can be with u for sex (trust me, it's sex. it's the GFE feel that he exploit on your feelings for him but still, it's sex). don't believe? reject his every advance but still cook dinner for him, drink with him, watch movie etc but NO SEX. see the pissed look, it's so "not-him".

if he can betray his wife for sex, your depreciating asset (youth, body and looks) is not in the best position to capitalise on this man. good luck

[SharkAttack]

TS, i know of friends who are just happy to be mistress.

No big deal.

They love the attention, dont have to worry about finances for the man nor worry about doing housework.
Haha just happy times. Very little to lose.

If you're keen on this path, by all means see it through.

But always remember you're 2nd to the one he has a family. In exchange for what i stated above.

All the best to ya