Trust issues?

[weisx]

Will you get angry if partner checks ur phone? Mine gets angry, says that I don't trust. But if do nothing wrong why flare up?

[larue]

Your instincts are probably right, unfortunately.

[korean]

Originally Posted by weisx

Will you get angry if partner checks ur phone? Mine gets angry, says that I don't trust. But if do nothing wrong why flare up?

R u a sis or bro? I don't think this is a wise move.

[cuscorex92]

post this question back to him/her...if u respect me,u wont hv done it.
mutual respect of each other's privacy or TRUST is an important element foundation in a relationship.

he or she muz hv somtin inside tat needs clearing,i suggest clearing it up & rebuild this element.

[larue]

Originally Posted by cuscorex92

post this question back to him/her...if u respect me,u wont hv done it.
mutual respect of each other's privacy or TRUST is an important element foundation in a relationship.

he or she muz hv somtin inside tat needs clearing,i suggest clearing it up & rebuild this element.

So is OPENNESS right? Or you think it is okay to demand trust from your partner without being open yourself?

There's a world of difference between needing to check on the other's phone everyday, or wanting to know where they are all the time, and wanting to know sometimes when one feels some insecurity, for whatever reason.

And when that happens and your partner is unable to offer you any form of reassurance, but reacts defensively....

[hugs]

Originally Posted by weisx

Will you get angry if partner checks ur phone? Mine gets angry, says that I don't trust. But if do nothing wrong why flare up?

If you realised that "trust" and "done something wrong" is two different things, and that you should not link both of them together, do you see the issue now?

A newborn baby trusted the mum but that did not mean the mum never made mistakes. If the mum made some mistakes, how did she feel if the baby rejected her each time she wanted to carry the baby?

[larue]

Hugs, I don't understand what you're trying to say at all! So TS is the newborn or the mother?

[lawry]

look. please grow up and be mature.

Lets put betrayal aside first.

No matter how loving is the relationship. One will once in a while bitch to his/her friends about his/her partner. you see the hp and know that your partner bitch about you. you song meh?

ok, he or she loves you deep deep.. but everyone has their dark secrets.. like seeing ladyboy naked pics or seeing lesbian acts or something stupid.. you see his/her handphone and found out is it good for the relationship?

ok, he/she loves you deep deep.. but once in a while he/she needs to talk to the opposite sex to have a refreshing chance of subject or interesting conversation. you see that he/she can communicate better with another opposite sex.. you song meh?

human has good and evil in them.. thus, don't look at their mobile phone and know their dark secret.

in life, especially relationships, if it fated to be yours. it will be yours.. if you overkill by close monitoring.. be prepared to break this relationship up.

obviously you are a young punk that is not matured in thoughts and do not know what is good for relationships.

I hope i have knock some senses into you.

[hugs]

Read what bro Lawry wrote. He is on the dot. The baby and mum were just offering two sides of the coin related to trusting issue.You trusted me, so I trusted you. But once that trust is broken, both sides will react by you doubting me and I doubting you back. Over what is natural, just like bro Lawry have explained.

The newborn is ts.

Originally Posted by larue

Hugs, I don't understand what you're trying to say at all! So TS is the newborn or the mother?

[cuscorex92]

Originally Posted by lawry

look. please grow up and be mature.

Lets put betrayal aside first.

No matter how loving is the relationship. One will once in a while bitch to his/her friends about his/her partner. you see the hp and know that your partner bitch about you. you song meh?

ok, he or she loves you deep deep.. but everyone has their dark secrets.. like seeing ladyboy naked pics or seeing lesbian acts or something stupid.. you see his/her handphone and found out is it good for the relationship?

ok, he/she loves you deep deep.. but once in a while he/she needs to talk to the opposite sex to have a refreshing chance of subject or interesting conversation. you see that he/she can communicate better with another opposite sex.. you song meh?

human has good and evil in them.. thus, don't look at their mobile phone and know their dark secret.

in life, especially relationships, if it fated to be yours. it will be yours.. if you overkill by close monitoring.. be prepared to break this relationship up.

obviously you are a young punk that is not matured in thoughts and do not know what is good for relationships.

I hope i have knock some senses into you.

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[HelloAngel]

In a relationship, there must be trust for it to work. Me and my partner do not see the need to check each other's phone as we feel each of us should have our own personal privacy and space. A phone is a very personal item and seriously, when you check, you will be so sensitive to any minor texts between him n the opposite sex and your mind will run wild. For what?

Be with someone you trust. Otherwise end it. I value my space and privacy and gives the same privileges to my bf too. Otherwise, the relationship will just be about checking messages, checking email, checking whereabouts... No end la.

[merelyevil]

Originally Posted by HelloAngel

In a relationship, there must be trust for it to work. Me and my partner do not see the need to check each other's phone as we feel each of us should have our own personal privacy and space. A phone is a very personal item and seriously, when you check, you will be so sensitive to any minor texts between him n the opposite sex and your mind will run wild. For what?

Be with someone you trust. Otherwise end it. I value my space and privacy and gives the same privileges to my bf too. Otherwise, the relationship will just be about checking messages, checking email, checking whereabouts... No end la.

Totally agreed with this. Not a wise move to check your partner's phone. Unless you both talked about it and are totally open about it. If only one party has the urge to check, then sadly, no. Don't do it