How to handle a materialistic woman?

[stillgottheblue]

Your relationship is bulit upon money. It will not last.

[see see only]

Bro TS,

Way to handle a materialistic woman is to go against her will ..... learn to be interesting and earn her liking instead .... .... but not paying for everything .... twist and turn your words interestingly (this i think you can consult bro IK)

In all gentleman way, strike an equality on the payment arrangement .....

Woman long for paying man on their date ...... but they lust for interesting man on their date even more ............

[timmyh]

You are already resenting her. It's only going to get worst, cut your losses now. Plenty of fishes in the sea. Go walk on orchard rd and tell me u don't see a nicer one every 5 mins

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by Inun

It's hard to change a person of any kind... For a materialistic woman,their desire for the good things in life is insatiable... Once you pamper her,she'll try to up her stakes and ask for more.. And it'll naturally be your responsibility to spoil her and get things her way... Woman of that age should know how to be financially smart and not being a spendthrift,maybe you can stress to her the importance of having a savings and spendin within her limits..

well said sis. up u 4 pts.

[pricky77]

Is she qiu ---?

[sglee]

Leave before she suck u dry

[Ho-Lee]

Originally Posted by sglee

Leave before she suck u dry

No much $$$ left to be suck dry..

[batty]

Tell her you both need to save up some money now for when you both are married together.

[ironman73]

Originally Posted by Ho-Lee

Just started a relationship with a milf (34 years) 4 months ago. She is very beautiful and have lots of suitors. However she is spendthrift without any savings on hand. Everytime during our date out she wont spend any single cents and I am the one who foot the bills ie: shopping, dining in restaurants, travelling, petrol etc....She told me she has been pampered by guys in the past . So bros and chance to change her?My pocket is starting to feel the pinch now. If yes what are the proposal? Right now she is staying together with me.

I have afew ladies friend that fall into this category. I have afew suggestion that you can try but provided that you really wanted a long relationship with her.
1) Cutdown on going to posh & expensive restaurant. Bring her to a lvl lower environment. Let her get used to it everytime you are with her.
2) When she went around shopping, u tell her to go ahead on her own. You will wait for her somewhere. You can go for a coffee or wander around. By doing this, she will need to paid for all her expenses.
3) Have a talk with her. Let her know that you are over spending, if she really like you, need to accomodidate these changes.
4) Travelling, make her paid for her own airticket, however you will paid for all her other expenses such as hotel, taxi, meals etc. Anyway, you will need to paid all this even if u are going alone.
5) If you paid for the meals during your dating, let her paid for the movies...It will be something like 80% from u and 20% from her. Leting her get to use of spending some$$$ on you. Is not the amount that counts, is the thoughts.

What i worry most is not with her spending habit, for that is easy to change. I think u need to beware of her character.

Put the above to test for afew months, if she can take it, most likely she will change. If not you don't need to leave her..SHE WILL LEAVE YOU.

Hope it help...my 2cents.

[Apocalypse]

Originally Posted by Ho-Lee

Just started a relationship with a milf (34 years) 4 months ago. She is very beautiful and have lots of suitors. However she is spendthrift without any savings on hand. Everytime during our date out she wont spend any single cents and I am the one who foot the bills ie: shopping, dining in restaurants, travelling, petrol etc....She told me she has been pampered by guys in the past . So bros and chance to change her?My pocket is starting to feel the pinch now. If yes what are the proposal? Right now she is staying together with me.

There are 2 question first. Can you or can you not afford to spend?
And how much are you spending that you are overspending?

You need to establish a budget, and indicators you are reaching your upper limit.

Fuck off if you say my limit on my girl is $200 only. That's not even enough for condoms.

You need to implement carrot and stick.

You only reward her when she please you. The more she please you, the more you give. But your standard must be high, so that most of the time, you can say she is not pleasing you enough.

Empty your mind and control your fear. You spend bec you find her so beautiful and she will leave. Fuck it. Accept that she will leave anyway, and take back that power. Hint to her your ability to spend, BUT you have no reason to spend on her.

She says she has suitors, then let her go to her suitors if they are truly better. This is a game of poker or blackjack, so show your confidence and call bluff.

Of cos, it can backfire, or she might be higher skilled than you. And since she so fast moved in with you, I think she is v highly skilled because now she knows you better than you know her. In this case, you need to create some situation to establish your power, and make her dependent on you. Which is not going to be easy considering the skill difference between her and you.

In any case don't find me either. I'm just saying what I would do if I am in your situation.

[qwertyuiop]

All bros here giving very good and powderful english advice. That's awesome! My greens are limited as to who to reward to....

My advice to TS, looks is deceiving. No matter how good it is, the heart will change in the end. A pampered being is the worst kind of being ever, they will never change their spots. Prepared to get sucked dry before the "change" is to come and hope u get prepared not to get heartbroken by the aftermath. Many rich guys in this world to pamper her next when you've dried up.

All the best, think wisely and like my parents always says: "If she's yours, she will be, be it that you're rich or poor, be it restaurants or hawker centres"

Oh, and your question you ask?

How to handle a materialistic woman? <<< Answer is, don't feed her with your $, for she will become even more materialistic than ever. For true love, a materialistic woman can become a down to earth woman naturally, you don't need to change her nor give her time to change.

[qwertyuiop]

Originally Posted by maxsee

Seriously leave her....unless u can afford it...no matter how gorgeous she is....i can tell u this...in time the passion will dies....that's when reality kicks in....so end of the day...dun bite more then u can chew....

And i dun think u can really change a person basic values...just like a leopard never changes it spots.....but then again ur life ur choice....

Well said, my humble greens for u.

[Greatking]

I don't know bout your case.

But, its useless. It's hopeless. Seek for a better green.

[hickeybites]

Honestly my first reaction was to advise you to run for the hills... It does reflect her lack of planning & self-control to be without without any savings of her own (that you know of) at age 34. It could possibly mean 2 things:
1) she's withholding from you the possibility that she has her own nest egg & instead makes you pay every single cent even tho' you are not married yet [scary] OR
2) she's actually really clueless about finances & is making clear up front about having zero safety net of her own [doubly-scary]

BUT to be fair, your post is rather brief & there are a few details which you've not highlighted that can make a huge difference.
- When you first met her, did you know about this aspect of her character & accepted it on your own accord?

- Is she working & contributes at least to the house in some way? (since she's moved in with you)
E.g. utilities bills, groceries, helping to clean the house, take care of you like cook meals for you etc?

- "Materialistic" is a rather loaded word - does she expect you to constantly buy her luxury goods e.g. branded bags, jewelry, super expensive cosmetics, costly clothes?
Or is it that she's just simply against the notion of going Dutch on dates? Has she demanded an allowance from you yet or is she paying for her own daily expenses?

- Have you been upfront with her about your own expectations of dates/pak-tor/outings?
And if so, what was her reaction & did she take any concrete steps to change aside from just saying that she'll try?


Her beauty is of course her most obvious asset & it would of cos look well on you that you've woo-ed her, thereby beating her many other suitors. I'll like to believe that you are with her not just because of her beauty but hopefully also for her other redeeming qualities. In turn, her reasons for being with you must run deeper than just because you pay for her right?
If so and if you are thinking long term, then be upfront & firm. Start by implementing the steps highlighted by Bro ironman73.
AND importantly gauge her reaction!!! If she's serious about making positive changes, she would likely not balk/throw tantrums/withdraw from you/grow cold etc.

Btw, when you say she's a MILF you do not mean that she is a mother already right? Just referring to her age I hope

[sean69]

my advice would be to dump her... from your description, she expects you to pay for everything as if it is her right to be pampered and spend your money...

if she is serious about you, she will not tell you that other guys pampered her in the past and expects you to do the same.. maybe you should ask her back "how many guys in the past ? " and see how she reply you.. if it is a busload.. hmmm ...

then again, if they are so good to her, why did she break up with them? is it because they have no more money???