Chatting during punting

[super_manny]

Do you guys like to talk to the WL or FL before and after doing the deed?

I hate mechanical services where there's minimal chit-chat or a language barrier and straight on the cap and on with the riding.

Personally, I'm more aroused when fucking with mind more than with just body contact.

However I didn't create this post just to make just the above point.

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Recently I met a WL and a FL, and what they said to me troubled me and got me thinking about my lifestyle.

The thing that strikes me is that both of them said the same thing when they first met me: "You shouldn't be here."

And I revisted the WL on another occassion and I could tell that she was absolutely delighted to see me again, but after the fuck, she said she was worried about me, cos with my looks, my age and spending power, I should get a normal gf.

Everyone punts for a reason or two... I just can't seem to reason with myself why I punt. Maybe I punt cos it gives me something that a 'normal' lifestyle cannot, but I can't pin point it...

Maybe some of you senior samsters can give some advice to a fellow samster, maybe to justify the lifestyle or to talk me outta it.

Thanks.

[aczeta76]

eerhhh... dun know what to say.. Chatting is fine, I can chat with everyone from the chio nurse at the clinic this morning to the MM at my favorite Bee Hoon stall.. No harm in chatting so long as both parties enjoy it. We are social animals mah

On comm sex. If you see most of the bros here, we are all normal, some married, some attached, some single but we all share one thing common, we visit Xiao Jie..

There is nothing wrong or abnormal about this so being a desirable bachelor has nothing to do with finding FL

Why? Ultimately, dpds on how you see things lah?

Before i met my PRC GF, I also have my share of SG GF and we do engage in ECA so I oso dun know Y i still go GL, TN to 6c6c

Even now, when my PRC GF not with me, I oso go cheong mah. Rite or wrong.. I dun know

All I know is that (I have told some of the FLs this) there are some FL/WL who I visit juz for the sex and fun and to release urge and feel good...Xiao Mei, Yan Zi, CDSL etc

There are other who I see to make love, Xiao Ping, Xiao Na, Wu Li, Shan Shan etc (and we remain friends) after tat.

Still others who I see for fun and old times sake, like Xiao Lu, Le Le...

I guess in the whole scheme above, so far, only those in the 2nd category esp XN make me feel that I should get out of comm sex..Correction, she is the only one who i feel doesn't really fall into the category of FL

Which is Y I dun post FR on her.

My advice to you bro... ask yourself what you want in life. And do it, knowing all the risk involved

Cheonging has nothing to do with looks or money or watever, it is a state of mind. U can be a millionaire and yet prefer Cat 40 or u could be a good looker but prefer MILF.. it is your preference.

Ask yourself and you will get your answer

[super_manny]

Thanks aczeta76. I guess it's more the urge to add some excitement to a very stable but boring life...Being oppressed to act goody good in this society all the time does have it's tolls.

[no_faith]

Originally Posted by super_manny

The thing that strikes me is that both of them said the same thing when they first met me: "You shouldn't be here."

......

Maybe some of you senior samsters can give some advice to a fellow samster, maybe to justify the lifestyle or to talk me outta it.

Thanks.

i dun tink she really mean it if not she earn whose money?
sum also ask me got gf or not? married or not? why no gf no married leh?

......

im not senior samster but maybe bros who face same prob can discuss.

there is no specified/standard lifestyle to live.
u choose ur life.

now if still can afford to play, juz play lor. be happy mah.

[super_manny]

Originally Posted by no_faith

i dun tink she really mean it if not she earn whose money?
sum also ask me got gf or not? married or not? why no gf no married leh?

I asked the WL why she said it... She say it's because I dun look like and behave like her usual clientele...

[ekemono]

1) we are social beings so chatting is normal.

2) There is nothing wrong in this lifestyle provided it does not hurt any closed one or yourself.

[Gentle Beast]

Don't think too highly of yourself. Cheongsters from famous footballers to block buster movie stars punt all the time. Who is to tell them, 'You shouldn't be here'?

There are only 2 kinds of men, one who cheong and the other who doesn't (minority). No one, especially a WL has the right to tell you 'not to cheong'. The choice is yours, if you feel guilty about it, just stop. If you are confused with these 2 WLs comments, just change WL. Sorry to be blunt, but hope it helps.

[devilboy99]

Personally i prefer to have some chit chat before & after a session. It creates alittle of the girlfrd feeling. If just strip, screw and go, not my cup of tea...

I would feel like i had just had a session with a robot... even animals have some form of communication and courtship before sex...

Remember R.E.S.P.E.C.T is important between both parties.

[colins]

Originally Posted by Distortion

i believe that communication and mutual respect is important between the WL/FL between her client...

Originally Posted by devilboy99

Remember R.E.S.P.E.C.T is important between both parties.

Fully agree. If you behave reasonably with self-respect (not sneaky or try to act smart), most of the times you will see the girl treat you differently. It can be quite obvious as she would change her approach, and in my experience her new behaviour reveals more about her thinking and less of her acting. Can be good or can be bad la, cos they will either want to connect with you (starts talking abt herself) or really treat you like a customer (becomes cold). I believe the real GFE is derived from here.

I dun like my WL or KTV girl to act, so usually I wont ravage her immediately as one of my friends would do (and the girl would run away leaving her tips - at least this is our theory for him doing that). I'll talk to her 80% of the time and probably play dice or 5-10 for the rest (for KTV). WL, on the other hand, seldom get connected with me, dun know why. Maybe me no experience in chatting them up. Thats why no longer going for WL now.

[Ronaldo]

I always believe that this chatting part depends on the girl.. Sometimes even in HC, I will chat with the girl and enjoy more passionate sex later...

In China, its a 90min session thus there is alot of shit to talk about. But the lowdown is that sometimes I get carried away and cannot get hard later.

But TS should not get carried away with the conversation. Most of them are paying lips service. Like the Cantonese saying, blow water. She might not even understand the shit we are talking about or the jokes we want to project, but due to her "professionalism" she will still laugh. With you or at you, I dont know.

There is no special one in this line lahz... Maybe just someone whom share certain same interests like... sex. Anyway believe in one ear in, one ear out....yet act interested.... who knows, maybe someone may really be interested in you at that moment...

Lastly, I saw one posting of someone mentioning his friend ravage the girls. I dont usually do it as well. But I do have a fair share of friends who does it. Singaporeans tend to be alittle laid back thats why we look like gentlemen. Old birds may react differently. But some girls are very uptight, like this cannot, that cannot. Or sometimes they call you horny or perverted. I remember a classic rebutt by a GZ veteran, he told the girl, 如果我们不好色，你那会有钱赚？

Best... the girl just had to shut up

[colins]

In Shanghai, the more expensive clubs are more fun than the less ex ones, its like a norm, the mummy can even say, so do you want me to ask the girls to remove their bras and panties? Like that, its clear and no need to talk so much liao. In Dadi, the 5th floor girls come in bikinis (on the last time I was there).

In Singapore, the more expensive ones tend to have girls who are (prettier yes but) more reserved, like must chat them up a little or they must drink some alcohol before getting comfy. Most times though, if they butterfly, not so worth it to make them drink, so chatting up is better bet unless the girl stays the entire night beside you.